I don’t think a such a time ever exists when we have to talk about taboo topics or the bad shit that exists in this world. We can either choose to ignore the problems or face them – And let’s be honest, how many people ignore them?
Male suicide is the biggest killer of men and believe it or not its three times higher than female.
85 men take their own life each week, that’s 336 people a month, 4032 a year. Doesn’t seem real does it? But it is.
I recently learnt that a childhood friend of mine at the weekend recently lost his life due to the evil and cruel illness we call mental health – A disorder that’s close to my heart as you all know. Due to the respect of his family, friends i won’t name him – But he struggled with mental health all of his life. He was a funny guy, i remember me having a big of a crush on him when he was into skate boarding and i went out of my way to beg my mum and buy a skateboard so i can chill with him and his crew.
I and my friends have so many memories with him as kids and teens – But as we got older, like all of us we went out separate ways and lived our own lives.
I heard of some struggles and things he had done – mistakes and bad choices he made as an adult. I bumped into him a few years ago, with two men. He was overly happy to see me and i didn’t judge his glazed eyes and two straggly friends next to him. Because he still had that cute baby face, huge happy grin – Something i’ll never forget.
I know about suicide, i know of people who have attempted it and some succeeded but this one hit home because it was home. I’ve had these thoughts, i won’t lie. I cried when i thought about taking my life because it’s a horrible scary thought. I think i will always suffer but i know i won’t ever do it – Some of us are able to fight harder than others, and some just can’t – That’s the sad thing.
I can’t help but think what was going through his mind, or what his lasts thoughts were why he felt that low – Questions we will never be able to answer for him.
I wont forget that he left a baby behind and a beautiful caring family. I can’t stop thinking about what they are feeling right now, the questions they will be asking themselves – What could we of done?
Mental health doesn’t just effect the person, it effects everyone and the aftermath of suicide is so self torturing.
My point here is, i have been sitting on this idea for a while to fight the fight and raise money or contribute myself to making mental health out in the world for people to see and not ignore and i didn’t think it would wake me up as soon as this. I have plans in the near future but for now i am asking you to help me.
I designed these three postcards – For each purchase, all money i accumulate from the sales of this set of postcards will be donated directly to the mental health charity Mind
These postcards can be printed off as many time as possible – And sometimes someone might just need that reminder we are here. We want to listen, please open up and talk to us. I wasn’t going to make anymore of these until next week as i have some crocheting to get on with but i honestly didn’t expect to hear this sad news of my friend.
We have to fight the stigma, we have to fight with the people that are fighting every single day.
PLEASE help by purchasing my set of three postcards – You can scale them so print them at the actual A6 size or whatever, use them for good or for yourself. Hand them out to someone who might need a ear, show someone you are willing to listen.
I wish everyone a happy Easter!! Don’t eat too much chocolate.
For help in the UK please check out Mind, they are an amazing charity amongst all the others that exist. >> Mind
Samaritans – for everyone
Call 116 123
Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – for men
Call 0800 58 58 58 – 5pm to midnight every day
Papyrus – for people under 35
Call 0800 068 41 41 – Monday to Friday 10am to 10pm, weekends 2pm to 10pm, bank holidays 2pm to 5pm
Text 07786 209697
Childline – for children and young people under 19
Call 0800 1111 – the number won’t show up on your phone bill
The Silver Line – for older people
Call 0800 4 70 80 90